According to The Knot, the average couples spends a whopping $28,000 on their wedding. Because weddings require such a huge commitment – both personally and financially – it's not surprising that tempers would flare. If you, your future spouse, parents and friends are spending more time arguing about these 3 common wedding-related issues, rather than enjoying this otherwise-blissful experience, here are a few tips to help you get over it, and get back on track:

I Really Just Don't Care

From the flavor of the cake to the budget for flowers and wine, when it comes to planning a wedding, it feels like there are 101 decisions that need to be made. Ideally, the bride and groom will sit together and hold hands while planning their big day, but in reality, this rarely ever happens.

Generally, either you or your mate will instead utter three little words, and they're not "I Love You." If your future spouse isn't showing as much enthusiasm for the wedding planning process, here are a few tips to get them into the spirit:

• The Bridal Guide recommends utilizing your future spouse's skills. For example, if your fiancee loves to work with their hands, encourage them to craft something for the ceremony, such as an alter.

• Allow your future spouse to express their opinions without fear of judgment. For instance, if you're the bride and your groom is a huge sports fan, encourage him to put a unique spin on the reception.

• Plan a romantic date night that just happens to include a few wedding planning chores. Your spouse will be more excited to plan a seating chart or pick out invitations if there is good food and a bottle of wine involved.

Remember, It's Not Your Parents' Second Wedding

Your parents mean well, but all of their good intentions are making you feel a little left out of your own wedding planning. You're not alone in this because many couples face the fights and hurt feelings that occur when their parents get overly involved in the planning process.

Instead of eloping, speak with your mate to determine a course of action that everyone can live with. For example, if you're willing to compromise, consider allowing your parents to make a few decisions concerning the wedding, such as the wording on the invitation. You could also encourage your parents to plan the engagement party, or ask them to work on a toast for the reception.

However, if you're adamant about planning this wedding on your own, it's vital to speak up, even if it leads to a few hurt feelings. Whatever you do, don't allow this rift to pull you and your future spouse apart. Remember, it was your parents' dream to help plan your wedding too, but eventually, they will come around!

The Dreaded Budget

When it comes to planning a wedding, there is generally one subject that is the source of the most contentious arguments: the budget. If you and your mate are constantly fighting over every nickel and dime, there are a few things you can do to ensure you're both happy on your wedding day:

• Start by being clear about how much money you have. Agree that even though it might mean making some compromises, you must both stick to the budget. Making every decision together and learning to breathe when you can't buy the cake or dress of your dreams are two simple ways to ensure this strategy is effective. 

• Talk to your potential wedding halls about any specials they might have. They may offer you a lower price if you use their catering service of if you're willing to have your family and friends take care of putting up and taking down the chairs, tables and decorations. 

• Look for ways to save as a couple. Even if it's only a small amount of money, saving cash on the flowers, cake or invitations can go a long way to making your stressed mate feel better.

• Remember that this is just the start of the rest of your life. Keep focusing on the marriage instead of the wedding, and you will discover that a few money woes aren't such a big deal!

Planning a wedding isn't for the faint at heart, and chances are a few mishaps and mistakes will occur. However, as long as you make decisions as a couple, they'll always be the best for you – and your wedding!

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